I am really so frustrated today about how easily it is for someone to perceive what you say or what you do as something other than what it was. People today want so much, to accuse someone else of doing something wrong that they can’t even see outside of their own views on life and on other people’s lives as well. I had to quit a very good job that I was in recently because I was being bullied by my manager. It seemed that nothing I did was right and she wanted to make me feel bad all of the time. It almost seemed as if she was getting some twisted satisfaction out of making my day hell every day.
It got to the point where I would feel sick about going into work after the weekend and I didn’t want to go back and have to subject myself to that environment over and over again. So on my last day there I did my best to maintain my composure. She wasn’t there and sent me an email questioning my work as she always did and I had had enough! I took advantage of her not being there, I gathered up my things, packed up my stuff at my desk and I just walked out. I felt GREAT!! After I left, I realized the amount of stress/baggage that I had been holding onto and in that moment it had been lifted completely off of me. I kept telling myself….I am not EVER going back there to see her face again lol .
What is so sad, is that this happens to so many people more often than it should. No matter what the situation is…if you repeatedly treat someone poorly over and over again, eventually nobody will want a thing to do with you. You can’t treat employees like animals and expect them to want to come into work everyday.
I have gotten to this new chapter in my life that I have recognized all of the things that people do and say that try and make me feel bad and I am NOT going to allow it anymore. I recently realized that I am the only one that is allowed to have control over my thoughts and emotions. There has been more time’s in my life where I have allowed other people to step all over me and make me feel bad for things I had no business feeling bad for when it was THEM that had the issue not me.
We need to start coming together and support each-other not make each-other feel bad all the time. Why is it that now this behavior has become so normal for people to treat other people that way? This should not be NORMAL treating people like SHIT is NOT NORMAL. I understand if people have bad days and they suddenly feel the need to take it out on someone else. Which that still isn’t healthy either but if someone is doing that all the time, that is simply a red flag that there is something more going on with that person. I feel like the pandemic just made it all worse and enhanced that version of people. I see way more aggressive behavior in people now than I did before the pandemic.
We have to come together as a society and stand up for ourselves and for other people. The bullies of the world think that it’s totally NORMAL to treat people like dirt and it’s NOT okay. The thing is….it’s our perception of what is going on that is killing us. My perception of something or someone, may not be the same perception as yours. That’s because it’s not supposed to be. And that is okay to be different, it’s okay to have a different opinion and different views on things. Were weren’t made to be alike in any shape or form but for some reason we try and make ourselves be like everyone else. What is killing many relationships today, is when there are so many people who can’t see that it’s okay to be different and they will only see a person/situation the way they want to see it. You cannot force your view points on other people and expect them to feel or think the same way, it just doesn’t work. Perhaps when the world can come to a better understanding about that….we might be able to start living more peace filled lives. God bless.