PERCEPTION IS A KILLER

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I am really so frustrated today about how easily it is for someone to perceive what you say or what you do as something other than what it was. People today want so much, to accuse someone else of doing something wrong that they can’t even see outside of their own views on life and on other people’s lives as well. I had to quit a very good job that I was in recently because I was being bullied by my manager. It seemed that nothing I did was right and she wanted to make me feel bad all of the time. It almost seemed as if she was getting some twisted satisfaction out of making my day hell every day.

It got to the point where I would feel sick about going into work after the weekend and I didn’t want to go back and have to subject myself to that environment over and over again. So on my last day there I did my best to maintain my composure. She wasn’t there and sent me an email questioning my work as she always did and I had had enough! I took advantage of her not being there, I gathered up my things, packed up my stuff at my desk and I just walked out. I felt GREAT!! After I left, I realized the amount of stress/baggage that I had been holding onto and in that moment it had been lifted completely off of me. I kept telling myself….I am not EVER going back there to see her face again lol .

What is so sad, is that this happens to so many people more often than it should. No matter what the situation is…if you repeatedly treat someone poorly over and over again, eventually nobody will want a thing to do with you. You can’t treat employees like animals and expect them to want to come into work everyday.

I have gotten to this new chapter in my life that I have recognized all of the things that people do and say that try and make me feel bad and I am NOT going to allow it anymore. I recently realized that I am the only one that is allowed to have control over my thoughts and emotions. There has been more time’s in my life where I have allowed other people to step all over me and make me feel bad for things I had no business feeling bad for when it was THEM that had the issue not me.

We need to start coming together and support each-other not make each-other feel bad all the time. Why is it that now this behavior has become so normal for people to treat other people that way? This should not be NORMAL treating people like SHIT is NOT NORMAL. I understand if people have bad days and they suddenly feel the need to take it out on someone else. Which that still isn’t healthy either but if someone is doing that all the time, that is simply a red flag that there is something more going on with that person. I feel like the pandemic just made it all worse and enhanced that version of people. I see way more aggressive behavior in people now than I did before the pandemic.

We have to come together as a society and stand up for ourselves and for other people. The bullies of the world think that it’s totally NORMAL to treat people like dirt and it’s NOT okay. The thing is….it’s our perception of what is going on that is killing us. My perception of something or someone, may not be the same perception as yours. That’s because it’s not supposed to be. And that is okay to be different, it’s okay to have a different opinion and different views on things. Were weren’t made to be alike in any shape or form but for some reason we try and make ourselves be like everyone else. What is killing many relationships today, is when there are so many people who can’t see that it’s okay to be different and they will only see a person/situation the way they want to see it. You cannot force your view points on other people and expect them to feel or think the same way, it just doesn’t work. Perhaps when the world can come to a better understanding about that….we might be able to start living more peace filled lives. God bless.

Change will be a good thing.

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We are living in some really scary times. I have been looking for work and haven’t been able to get a job in some time. My family and I are struggling financially and I just had back surgery for the second time in hopes to help with my back pain and nerve issues. I still haven’t got the pain under control but the nerve issues are at-least manageable. My granddaughter is still in foster care and DHS/CPS are getting away with keeping my son from seeing/speaking to her in almost a year now. His court appointed lawyer isn’t helping and all I want more than anything is to help him get a decent lawyer but I can’t because I can’t even get a job right now. It’s frustrating too because I have a computer degree and one semester short of an Associates in Gen Studies, in debt up to my eyeballs and still can’t get the promise of a good job. When does the heartache ever end? Were living in very difficult and depressing times how can anyone have hope for a brighter future when were in the middle of a pandemic, more people are passing every day and we have to somehow put on a brave face and somehow still remain hopeful for CHANGE!!! I believe that GOD exists and not everyone does. If it weren’t for my faith I don’t know where I would be today. I have had a very difficult life to say the least and I can’t ever find some peace. I want to be able to do so much more but feel like I am limited every waking moment of my life and ask myself…is this it????? There has to be more to life than THIS!!! RIGHT???!!! I can only pray that God has a plan for my life and each and every person out there that feels the same way that I do. That’s my hope every day when I feel hopeless I have to remember he is in control not I. We are living in unknown waters that we’ve never seen before and it’s scary but at some point I know that things were going through now will be nothing more than a memory of a time of CHANGE for all of us. I can’t help but feel like this change will be a good thing and it’s also all part of Gods plan. Just as were living in the unknown we also DO NOT know what his plans are for our future. With that being said….I did not want to vote this year. It was just too much for me to handle and so I left it in Gods hands and asked that the best person win the election to run this country and I have enough faith to believe that God also has a plan for our country in the way it should go so I will remain hopeful and trusting in him as long as I am alive. In the end that’s all we can do is trust he will work it all out. Stay safe and blessed.

Love yourself more <3

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These are some really scary times that were living in. It’s understandable to question everything we do during this time but at the same time we still need to try and live life the best we can during this time. Don’t shut others out when their trying to help. Take precautions but always know that we weren’t meant to live this life alone. It’s a good thing to lean on others ESPECIALLY during trying and difficult times. I think that there are seriously wayyy too many people with a God complex. Too many people want to be better than everyone else and for what? Does it really matter? I don’t have anything to prove to anyone but myself.

I have NEVER been a follower and I guess I don’t understand when other people are. They just allow someone to stray them away like lost sheep. Have we all become the lost sheep during the epidemic just for the purpose of feeling in control? Some of the best things in life are UNEXPECTED. Its always scary to enter into the unknown but guess what? We are NEVER really alone. I know that not everyone believes in God or a higher being but in my world I can’t see how!! There is so much proof of his goodness and what he’s capable of if we just believe or try to believe in him.

HIS beauty and goodness is all around us. We don’t always see the beauty in everything but it’s there if we choose to look. It’s so hard to see it in others and in the mundane of life but it’s also there if we choose to look. I have gifts just like everyone else that need to be seen and for so very long I have felt like I needed to do for others and not take care of my own needs/wants. This is the year that I am taking back my life and have decided to focus more on me and what makes me happy and share more of who I am with the world and my writing.

I used to be afraid to show what I am capable of for fear of rejection and I think it stems from feeling not good enough. My entire life I have been compared to other people in my family and if I didn’t live up to those expectations than I was less of a person and treated differently. I am also the baby in my family so somehow there is a stigma that I must not know very much and what I do know is wrong and that I don’t know how to make good choices and decisions about ANYTHING. Well it has taken me a very very very long time to realize that NONE of that is TRUE. I am who GOD made me to be and that’s never going to change. Others can either choose to except me for who I am or kick rocks.

What I have also come to realize is that not everyone is going to like me and that’s okay too. I guess for so long I thought I needed people to like me or that somehow, their approval of my worth was important. But I am in a better place now where I realize it doesn’t matter. When you have believed something your entire life about who “others” expect you to be and you try so hard to live up to; that realization can be very stressful and depressing. When you realize you don’t need others approval to LOVE yourself, that’s such a HUGE release.

What SEEMS so easy to some, might not be so easy for others. We weren’t all made to be the same and that’s a awesome thing to realize. BE YOU and don’t be afraid to be the BEST YOU that you can be. If I could tell one person that has gone through what I have, something that could change their perspective and life it would be this…you are special and were made and born that way. Don’t ever change just because someone else’s view of who they think YOU should be doesn’t live up to their standards, well….it doesn’t have to.

peace and love ❤ Lori 🙂

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What time are we living in?

I was just sitting here thinking about this and it weighs heavy on my mind and heart today. What time are we living in right now? I have been trying to write and get my book out there BEFORE the Covid-19 but I wasn’t really taking it as seriously as I should. But now that were on lock down and all the things there are to do are read, write and whatever we can do on social media as there is so much worry and concern to go out into public and risk getting sick. It’s just better to stay in and not be at risk. Is this a good time to write that book and have the possiblity of it getting published now that more people are likely to read it? What direction is the publishing industry going? With everything being unknown about the way things are moving forward, I can’t help but wonder what next? What is after all of this and will it ever go back or be the same?

I know I am not the only one thinking about these things. But I just wonder what are all of my fellow writers out there thinking about the times were living in and how it affects us as writers? I also have tried to start V-LOGGING. I am interested in trying to get my knowledge and views out there but I have had a lot of apprehensive feelings and not knowing what the future holds.

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UIA/Unemployment in America 2020

First of all, its really heart breaking for me to even write this because were living in a crisis we didn’t anticipate falling into but here we are, we all must learn how to adapt and its scary and very stressful. I have come across all kinds of emotions whenever I go out during this epidemic were living in. Some lady cut me off after seeing someone else cutting me off and when I went to block her from it she goes around me at the light wayyyy on the other side and says to me “Do you have a problem”? WOW, no way you just said that to me” right? Is what I was thinking lol?! I said “you know what, get your crazy ass on down the road I don’t have time for this today”. Then there are the people I have seen such as the cashier at Menards. She tells me how “the hot weather just came on all of a sudden and she didn’t have an air conditioner for her ten month old child. She was hoping they didn’t sell out of the last one on sale before she had a chance to get one after work”. I wanted to go right back there and buy her one but I am struggling on unemployment myself trying to figure out how to get through this pandemic and back to work eventually just like everyone else.

Now here comes what I really wanted to talk to you about today is my unemployment YIKES!! I spent the day once before trying to contact them after applying and getting denied. I didn’t have income for 2019 from having back surgery and being off. The only income I had was from 2018. I had to qualify for the pandemic unemployment assistance that is also available. Now that I have, this is my second week of trying to claim benefits and it’s been crazy. I keep getting my payments delayed because it wants me to claim benefits that I didn’t have in 2019 and when trying to get someone on the phone to speak to them about it, has also been just as crazy. So the last time I spent an entire day from the time I got up, until the time they closed at like five, calling and re-calling. I never did get a-hold of anyone on the phone or on their online service. The next day I went to check my bank account and it was already fixed so I didn’t have to spend “another” day calling and waiting all day long on the phone, thank the Lord! This seems so tedious but sad at the same time because I know how many people are out of work like me trying to get help from the pandemic. And to be honest I am still just thankful everyday when I wake up that I am still breathing and so are my family and loved ones. Some people are just taking it for granted and wanting to rush the Government to re-open against many who don’t agree it’s time or to at-least take our time, since this virus was and is so deadly.

Another day that I get to be here on earth and not taken from the virus is a blessing so I don’t take anything for granted. I just wished everyone else could take their time and enjoy the time that were given with our family and loved ones. I have had a lot of people in my life I lost that passed away and I miss them so much. As much as I want to get back to work and am tired of waiting and doing something different that what were accustom to, I also do not want to take a single day for granted. I have become so in tune with my surroundings and trying to take each and every day in like a breath of fresh air, that I think I know what my purpose here is. To enjoy life not to just get through each day of work just to get up and do it all over again and have to feel like I have something I have to prove every single day of my life to other people. I don’t have anything I have to prove. Only to myself. When I die I don’t want to have any regrets that I didn’t do every single thing I wanted to do in this life.

Coronavirus in this time

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I have a lot on my mind today as I am sure a lot of other people do as well. But for me I have far greater goals than most to reach and it’s making my life as well as my family’s much more difficult to say the least. See the end of February my granddaughter was taken from my care while my son was finishing out serving his time for probation violations which total time was only a month and a half. CPS came to the place I was staying after I was the one that partly had made the report. They came after having to speak to her therapist that she used to have about her telling me my son had been touching her.

My granddaughter was in an abusive and neglectful home with her mother in 2016. Myself and my son had to pick up and relocate to another city to get all of his rights to her as well as fight to get custody. In that time she was in her mothers care, she was molested by a guy her mom dated that she called daddy. Her mom began coaching her and covering up the trauma after my son got custody. Why in the hell would someone try and cover for a child molester you ask? Because her mom is a drug addict and will do anything to make sure my son doesn’t have custody either.

After my son went to jail, I had power of atty for my granddaughter now knowing however that it wasn’t going to be enough for CPS to not take her from me at the chance they could. When my granddaughter told me that her dad was touching her I thought she meant my son. Then when her story changed a couple of days later I realized it was the guy she used to call daddy and her mom had been coaching her after a brief time she stayed with my son before he went to jail….(can you say STUPID?!) My son was trying to give her mother another chance….but she used it all against him to get my granddaughter taken away. Now my granddaughter is in foster care. Her mother even told my son she wanted her in foster care so that she didn’t have to pay child support. I don’t really know how long it will be before he get’s her back but he doesn’t have the money for a decent attorney right now and well….neither do I. Which is why I couldn’t get guardianship of her either because I don’t have my own home/income since I have been out of work for a lil over a year now recovering from major back surgery. I moved away and now moving back all of this has been tearing me apart.

I am trying to get back to work, manage my pain from a failed back surgery and get my own place which will no doubt take time but this Coronavirus epidemic is making everything ten times harder to get figured. Plus I was supposedly coaching her in the past as well by taking videos of her coming out about the abuse. Even though that’s not what I call coaching her, CPS tried to make it like it was.

I can’t get into seeing a new primary care physician until July and have to go back to my old PCP if I need help with anything which is over an hour away from where I am living currently. I am trying to get work but a lot of places aren’t hiring because of the outbreak and so now I may have to end up trying to get unemployment as well as the thousands of other people across the world right now. I just wish that this didn’t happen but it’s a true EYE OPENER to what’s really been going on around us that a lot of us seem to get blinded to when living life today. Even the simplest things we take for granted are now in the forefront of our lives and making us see that there are many more important things in life. Perhaps God is doing that for a reason I don’t know. What I do know is that I won’t stop to do whatever I need to do to help get my granddaughter out of foster care. Any suggestions please leave in the comments I would really appreciate it and have a blessed day!

Un-stoppable

Does anyone else understand the meaning of being truly un-stoppable? Here is what it says in the English dictionary

un·stop·pa·ble
/ˌənˈstäpəb(ə)l/
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adjective
adjective: unstoppable
impossible to stop or prevent.
“an unstoppable army”

I want to share my recent adventure with you. I just spent the second day in my new apartment and I’m so very proud of myself for moving away with family two hours away from where I used to live in Michigan, and in only six weeks I found the perfect job and the perfect apartment for me. You see to know me you would think this is a great feat because for many many years I’ve always been the one to take care of everyone else and putting myself last. Does anyone else out there know how that feels? So for me to now be on my own is an amazing feeling!!

I can go to bathroom with the door wide open, wake up or go to bed without worrying about how it will impact someone else’s sleep, heck run around stark naked if I want to and nobody cares but me. But most of all it’s that feeling I have finally gotten that I’ve waited so long to have and that’s having peace ☮️🕊️❤️

I’m calling this new start my head space because for me there is nothing else better than having absolutely nothing on my mind to worry about. I’m a worry wart so to me this is an impossible feat but I’ve done it finally and it feels soooo amazing. I’ve waited sooo long to have it. Now I can really begin to understand who I am and take all of my own un-healthy thoughts about myself to a higher level. I can finally get to know ME!!

This is so important for alot of us women today in the world 🌎 that we live in. It’s always been considered a man’s world until now women are finally standing up for equal rights and how amazing is that to see the changes begin. For me I’ve been a victim of being demeanored by men my entire life, starting with my own father.

I’m only just now beginning to realize the patterns of un-healthy thoughts and feelings that I’ve had for so long and try to sort them out to find out where they started and began this entire time. It’s not a good feeling when you realize that alot of your thoughts and feelings began with the behavior of other men you’ve looked up to your entire life but it sure is an empowering feeling once you realize where you went wrong your entire life. You see I have a history of being in un-healthy relationships. I’ve never been married but I have three children by three different men.

I’ve tried for years to take the blame for my kids not having a father but the sad reality is that I just don’t have much luck in relationships with other men because of my feelings of self worth. I’ve always felt like I didn’t deserve much and I didn’t set my standards higher.

I’ve been traumatized by sexual and physical abuse by other men and it got my self esteem so low at times I felt like I was nothing more than a ghost just simply trying to survive. It’s the idea of a man I was looking for but I always chose the WRONG TYPE of man based on all of my previous experiences with the other men in my life that

1. Should’ve known better than to treat the child, sister, friend, lover ECT. With such disrespect.

2. Never saw the person I was capable of being only just who they wanted me to be.

So now I’m changing the standards that currently exist for me and for alot of other women out there who also might feel this way! It’s time we stood together and take back what is ours, RESPECT!!

I always felt like in many of my past relationships that I had to rescue these men from other women and the fact was that I always missed was that I had forgotten about how I needed to be rescued right back. Therefore I had gotten to a place where I thought it was ok for me to just settle on the “type” of men that were available instead of seeing my own worth and that I deserved better. And this is the part of me that I am beginning to understand and want to work on changing.

Men have gotten so used to mis-treating women today it seriously has me wondering where this all came from and why in the world they would EVER think that it’s ok to treat women that way.

What I have realized is that men DO NOT UNDERSTAND WOMEN! So they will go to great lengths to gain some kind of understanding of them to make them feel more like a man 🤨😳well guess what? YOU GOT IT NOT ANY MORE!! It’s time us women start fighting back and putting these men right back in the shoes they belong in. I’m becoming a stronger woman and having to learn how to have more self confidence in myself and my worth and that’s just the beginning.

I will NO longer allow a man or anyone else to talk down to me and make me feel less of myself EVER again. It will NO longer affect me the way that I let it in the past. And I can feel myself growing into this person that God made me to be and finally freeing myself from everything/everyone in life that’s held me back all of these years.

I’m breaking out like a caged animal. I’m breaking out of my cages so that I am finally free to just BE ME!! I’m becoming UN-STOPPABLE 😃

So for all of my haters out there that just thought that I wouldn’t/couldn’t become anything better with my life…you better watch out because this is just the beginning ❤️💯👌

Be STILL!

Have you had a revelation come about and you had only part of the meaning and struggled to understand what it meant? What does REVELATION mean? Meaning from our trusted source google says this:

the divine or supernatural disclosure to humans of something relating to human existance or the world.

https://www.google.com/search?q=meaning+of+revelation&oq=meaning+of+revelation&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l9.3940j1j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Well that’s me. I have dreams all the time and never really sure what they mean but I have also had dreams that come true. I had a vision/dream a long time ago, a year before my son Zackariah was born. His father and I were never married, in fact he was in a marriage when we got together and he lied to me the whole time we were seeing one another saying “I am going to get a divorce, were separated and I sleep on the couch”.

I was so young and naive, I didn’t know what that meant. Now I do know that normally when someone is separated from their partners they have it legally done and for a future reference when a man tells me that I will ask for the proof….the proof is in the pudding honey child lol.

I got pregnant and he went back or (stayed) with the wife and my child didn’t have a father from that point on. I did a lot of crying, in which my son and I became close even before he was born. Even being STILL in my stomach until I started crying, he knew when I was upset and he would start moving in my stomach. This was his own way of showing me that he was there for me and it was going to be okay because I had him. I love this child tremendously. We have ALWAYS been very close. NOW let me tell you about the dream I had before he was born.

A year before I had him one night I was in bed and started dreaming about me being in the delivery room giving birth to a child. I had alot of my friends and family there with me and he was a he. I had a son and in my dream I could remember being asked by everyone what is his name? I said Zackariah, that’s what I will name him. A year later when I got pregnant when I went to have him, everything happened EXACTLY as it did in my dream right down to my naming him Zackariah. I knew that very day he was special. I took on the role of protector. I felt like I needed to be OVERLY protective not only because I knew he was special but because he had a sister Nicole that was murdered when she was just 6 years old. That is what brought me together with his biological father. She wasn’t being supervised as she should have been and a neighbor kid that was 16yrs old raped and murdered her. He wrapped her in garbage bags and buried her body in a shallow grave near the abandoned house where the incident took place.

Over the years I have had a very hard life as being a single parent. If anyone else out there knows, it’s not easy and I was a single parent of 2 boys and a girl. Joshua who was Zack’s older brother and my daughter Krystal who went to be with her father after a long heart crushing custody battle at 6 years old.

I have been in a lot of bad relationships and never married. I met up with a person I used to babysit for in 2019 and he was the first person I had ever been intimate with. At this time in his life he was in a wheelchair from a car accident. I became close to him again and started living with him. After I had been there staying for a few months I had a dream. The dream was of my son Zack standing at the edge of a river and in the river out came a snake. Every time I tried to get near him the snake would snap at me like it was trying to keep me from getting to my son. I remember Zack saying mom just BE STILL. After a few times of trying to move away I became very still and the snake reared it’s head back to spew venom on me ONLY instead of it landing on me, it turned and backfired in it’s face. Then I looked for the snake and it was gone. The water turned black and I woke up out of my dream. At that time I wasn’t sure what the dream meant. I moved out of my at that time boyfriends and back to my hometown.

Today I woke up and read someone’s facebook post about the apostle John and in this post it explained what that dream meant to me. I just broke up with a different guy that I had only been with for 6 months. He broke my heart and it turns out he wasn’t the person I thought he was when we first met. But he went into business with my son doing contracting/landscaping work and I left this person with both of my son’s to move 2 hours away to start my life over with family. Both of my son’s are both working together with this person but my son Zack had legally signed a contract with him for 3 yrs. I believe my dream represented the meaning of this relationship with this person and my son. The snake in my dream I believe is the guy that I was with and he kept me from being close to my son the entire time we were together.

In this facebook post it talked about the time to come and there being a tree at the water. This tree represented the tree of life and this is what it said:

Then the angel showed me the river of the water of life, as clear as crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb down the middle of the great street of the city. On each side of the river stood the tree of life, bearing twelve crops of fruit, yielding its fruit every month. And the leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations. No longer will there be any curse. The throne of God and of the Lamb will be in the city, and his servants will serve him. They will see his face, and his name will be on their foreheads. There will be no more night. They will not need the light of a lamp or the light of the sun, for the Lord God will give them light. And they will reign for ever and ever.

The angel said to me, “These words are trustworthy and true. The Lord, the God who inspires the prophets, sent his angel to show his servants the things that must soon take place.”

https://www.google.com/search?q=meaning+of+revelation&oq=meaning+of+revelation&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l9.3940j1j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Then the next passage was Psalms 46:10 that says this:

He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;
    I will be exalted among the nations,
    I will be exalted in the earth.”

This spoke to me today about how MY SON came to me in a dream before he was born and his name means “in the Lords remembrance”. And he is struggling now being lost in life. In the dream my son said BE STILL.

The message today hit me like a ton of bricks the LORD wants me and my son to know that he is WITH US and we don’t need to feel lost. He knew my son in my womb and he knows him now and he wants him to be like him “In the LORDS remembrance”! I had to tell my son this immediately that God spoke through me today to let him know that he’s using him to help guide us both into the life that he want’s us to lead. All we have to do is BE STILL. AMAZING isn’t it how GOD works in our lives? This wasn’t something that developed over night, this was something that took a lot of time for it to turn out PERFECTLY the way that HE wanted it to be. That’s when you know that you are being guided toward the right path in life if you choose to listen and believe. AMEN

I hope you all were moved by my message today as I was and may God bless all of you in the times to come, all you have to do is BELIEVE!

All good things come to us in time.

I have to write this today. In the midst of the carona virus my baby girl had her very own baby girl and she’s beautiful however, I was not able to be with her having her first child and it broke my heart 💔. I asked her to do a video of the delivery so I could see it. Of course it’s really not the same but I am thankful we have the technology today that we didnt have back then when I had my babies.

There is a surgery I’m having next week and I am a little nervous but I have faith in God that it will work out. It’s my second surgery for my crumbling back. I had a fusion and disc replacement Jan 2019 and now I am having another back surgery to remove hardware, cut out scar tissue from my last one, and bone spurs. I feel like it may be more extensive since it feels like the screws in my back are broken. Alot of times there are things that dont show up on imaging. I definitely need to have this surgery because of more nerve issues and pain. But it’s hard to know what the best decision is dealing with the covid 19. No matter what I cant NOT have it. It feels like the first surgery did not resolve my issues and hence the need for this one. I tell myself well Tiger Woods had to have four back surgeries before he won the green jacket so….

I believe all good things come to us in time as it’s always Gods timing and not our own. For all of you that get discouraged because of times were living in….just remain hopeful and trusting that God has a bigger plan for us. In time things always have a way of working themselves out. Stay safe and blessed.

Juniper Jean Neal 09-22-20

UNPLUG from time to time!

Lately I have been feeling so disconnected to everyone and everything which is an awkward feeling because I used to be one of those people who needed to know everything that was going on in the world. I have even taken a journalism course in college, with my major in getting my BA for journalism. Being in the know all of everything, I felt was necessary for that type of degree. But why did I go into that particular field of study is what I had to ask myself lately? I felt like my whole life is passing me by and I am standing there on the side line just holding up a white flag.

I am a good writer and never had it all figured out with what I would do if I ever made it that far and actually received my degree. I have been a single parent, caretaker to a sick parent, college student, and fulltime employee all at the same time. Even though I tried so hard to hang on to some little piece of myself and remain intact….I lost myself.

I moved away to help my son with his daughter, CPS has failed us and she is still in foster care and were fighting to get her back. There are alot of articles going around on social media about the corruption of CPS as my granddaughter is currently in the midst of it as well. It really breaks my heart to hear or see things about foster care on the internet, tv, or radio.

But I still love to write. I wrote a book for my granddaughter that I tried to have published last year but that didn’t work out too well and I got discouraged. I once had a creative writing teacher tell me to “write like someone else’s life depends on it” and guess what….it does. NO PRESSURE!! I am trying to find the reason’s I have not wanted to keep up with my writing…am I not good enough…things I have said to myself before that are not helpful for motivation.

A few days ago, after reading some information from my writing coach, I made the decision to make some over due changes to help me focus on my writing. The email was about another author who had to get off all social media and change her lifestyle completely in order to have the motivation it took to start writing and she’s published 17 books. So I made the decision I was going to do the same things and start making some personal changes to focus more on my writing.

What I have realized is that it’s a lot of self talk and motivating yourself, by unplugging from the world for a while to focus on yourself more…is that a bad thing? I think NOT!! With everything going on in the world today we all just need to take some time to just UNPLUG from time to time. The times were living in are hard to adapt to and I really came to one conclusion, that’s to take it one day at a time, try not to overwhelm yourself by all of the media and stuff going on in the world even in what’s going on in your own life.

If we take baby steps and ask ourselves what are we TRULY GRATEFUL for in this life? I am sure we will find a reason to go on and no matter what the obstacles are in life we will rise above them. So whenever your feeling disconnected from the world like I have been lately, just unplug for a little while and get your barring’s back. Sometimes it’s easy to get stuck in the unknown of the reality we live in and in order to not be so overwhelmed, we need to recognize what’s happening and just take a break to unwind a little, breathe, look around us and really embrace what we have here while we are still alive. I always say that I have one life to live and I want to make the most of it!!

Pondering thoughts

Let us not be that society anymore where we have to stress ourselves out every day just to become who we think society wants us to be….

Let us not be that society that focuses on people’s faults to a T but focuses on the highlights of what makes them unique….

Let us not be that society that determines your future for you without RE to WHO & WHAT EA & EVERYONE of us was created to be….

Let us BE THE SOCIETY that starts a movement of LOVE & COMPASSION comes first no matter your skin color, race, age or religious and political beliefs….

Let us BE THE SOCIETY that LISTENS to others without judgement…..

Let us BE THE SOCIETY that cares enough to stand up for others and against bullies….

Let us NOT be the society that wants to hurt others and shows the entire WORLD 🌏 that were mean and cold hearted and we dont even care about our own people in this country….

Let us BE THE SOCIETY that always takes ea others hand and says…it’s going to be okay….

Let us show the world we know what it means to stand WITH ea other NOT against ea other…

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